Oh, Dear Reader, we’ve gone a long time since my last post on my own experiences with weight-loss, haven’t we? Let’s go at a rapid clip, because I can only reiterate a bit before it starts to grate. Jack is bitter because life isn’t ever the Hallmark Moment that people assume it should be, Jack has been through a lot of pain, both mental and physical and Jack didn’t mention that he lost ten stone, probably more, went through a major surgery and needs further first and that tells you how I go about talking about this. I’m honest and I put huge emphasis on responsibility, this is rarely what you expect and that’s what I’m talking about again, and ever again.
So, why is Jack doing this? The clarity and refinement that time brings with contemplation and the hopes it’ll reach just one person. One aspect of this kind of discussion is it tends to sound familiar, because a lot of it is the same, but it’s the framing hat’s important. I’ll get to that, first I’d like to talk about something that has been at times annoying, other times hurt and always downright infuriating. The question of “How did you” Blah blah blah. It really can be an earnest question, but all too often it’s a coded request for the secret code to skip ahead because it can’t be hard if you did it and you’re obviously holding out. Which is always ironic as I’m ever honest in the difficult and willing to help, why this bothers me, aside from just being a terrible way to treat another human being that has been through a traumatic experience, I’ve always said experiences vary and my was a dark time indeed. So, let’s draw back the curtain, I’ll use the notes, literally typed as I started so I wouldn’t lose the thread of this and you can see how simple it is when you know, but how useless that knowledge is without understanding.
Stumble by looking for an easy out, hurt me by doing it too. Oh, well I’ve covered this, see Jack thinks both ways. Rough and ready and slightly more elaborate and general.
Saviour complex makes bank. Tell you, Dear Reader, that THERE IS INDEED A WAY TO LOOSE WEIGHT™? See that’s where I stumble, I could frame my whole diet as a cure-all, a way to make me money by parcelling out bits of it as many bloggers do with nary a consideration to the safety of such an endeavour. You see I’m the poster child for successful weight-loss, I’ve never regained it, I’ve never even gone backwards. I could treat myself as a saviour to those who need help, but I don’t, I’m just Jack, which is a pen-name and such a simple one speaks volumes in itself, because I don’t want to do that. I want money, I want success and comments and views and all kinds of attention, but I will not do harm to one person to get that. Which makes me all but invisible at times, I’ve often said I was ever the weird kid growing up, that remains true, but I also remain true to my own moral compass, do what I can and leave the rest to the users and those who think too highly of their own intellect. I do teach I do help, often to no thanks or repayment, so I take it at my own pace and hope it helps.
Shortcuts fail to work perceptions warp. Yes, I think like this, I should stop, I’ll break something someday. So, when a Saviour’s™ great all wondrous Diet Plan™ fails to help or worse helps to get you started then falls apart you see the major problem with these kinds of people. They take what they can get, hurt people and leave mental scars, mistrust at the idea that diet can ever work. They make people hate themselves and often cause them to fall further back than when they started, hence the often observed phenomenon of Weight-loss Successes ending up heavier after a while. This is the part that really enrages me, Dear Reader, obviously if people where more sensible, less arrogant and lazy, also scared, confused and unintentionally ignorant, don’t worry I’m not tossing everyone under the bus, I understand a lack of knowledge. But simply put, when someone fails we’re a lot more likely to listen to them when they say it’s impossible to eat like this, it’s not, it’s impossible to lose weight, nope, and that’s really awful.
There are many issues at play, Dear Reader, there are issues with he ideal body type and the assumption that weight-loss bring not only a washboard stomach but also a sense of contentment. It’s why I talk like this, you’d be mistaken to think I regret it, but I do hate the work it takes hat is so rarely acknowledged. For the first time in perhaps two decades I’m free from back pain, Dear Reader, that seems miraculous to me, at times I still put a hand at my back due to the sheer number of times I had to to ease a pain or ache. See, the problem is if I talk only positive you’ll take that and go to the Saviours™ and decide they have the shortcut to great days and cheery nights.That Jack is just to dumb to figure out what he did. I lived on Mince for nearly three years, mince in a lose, watery sauce with pasta, before that mince and rice cakes, look at me now, Dear Reader, I went from that to this site, I did more work than I see in any recipe book being sold as an answer to a simplified question of healthy eating, so if you listen to anyone, doesn’t have to be me, listen to the ones who prove, who don’t just talk, the ones selling you a book of twenty generic recipes versus the free sites loaded, like say, here, with nearly four hundred for free. Yeah, you have to root through the site, that’s the clue, Dear Reader, you have to work for it or chances are that shortcut will turn out to be a dead end.
So, I’m learning to do this more, it’s the way of he internet. I provide a service here, as nontraditional as any, but the work is more than it seems and is consumed by many. So, if you’d like to donate you can do so here, if every Dear Reader who used a recipe from here, or several gave just a cent I’d have a lot more than you’d imagine.
Ko-fi: It’s literally like buying me a coffee. It may very well go to coffee.
Paypal: More straightforward. Throw money at me.
You can also help by sharing, Retweeting, liking or commenting, anything that spreads the site is helpful, but even if it became a huge success I’d still never see a penny. Ideally if I made enough from blogging I’d like to get a proper domain, really not viable right now, I can’t pay that monthly. Really I always feel I shouldn’t ask, but I then ask myself who ever did this much for me? No one, that’s the hard part and the part that has hardened me. I never want t withhold recipes, like a Patreon say, which is a great service, but if it took a recipe from someone who needed it I’d never forgive myself. In the end I’ll keep chugging along with the blog until I can’t or don’t want to. I hope it doesn’t sound ungrateful, but when I see huge amount of views, but only a few dedicated Dear Readers, whom I appreciate more than they can know, really interacting I figure I may as well put this out there at times. If they don’t like being reminded that I’m a person working hard at this then phooey to them from me. I’ll be back again later, Dear Reader. I have a post in the Same Old, Same New format waiting in the wings. It just needs some polish and photos. Until later, take care.